An angry, out of control eight-year-old was terrifying his older brother (twice his size) and his parents as well. The child had no friends because of his constant anger and lashing out. The parents came to me desperate for help. They'd tried everything! From their description of their son and what was going on in the home, I suspected Joel was of a very rare temperament who was seldom understood: very sensitive and easily hurt. However, I needed proof. He was constantly angry, they said, so I told them to go home and the next time he became angry to very lovingly hold him and tell him they were sorry he was hurt and ask how they could help him. Then they were to call me and tell me what happened. Very soon my phone rang and a very surprised parent said, "It was amazing. He broke down in tears." My suspicion was confirmed. We formulated a plan to help Joel and, within 2 weeks, the parents called to say they had a peaceful home. Three months later Joel completed an assignment in school that radiated a high self esteem over having "lots of friends." Multiple such stories of dramatically changed home environments and brighter futures for a child through simply understanding how the child is made on the inside, and the requests of parents to share this understanding (from more than thirty years of application) with more parents than I could touch in the coaching office, compelled me to provide this book.