The idea for this book came about during a conversation I had with a former therapist when we were talking about how prevalent the rationalization process was among women we knew. This led to her sharing a story with me about a friend of hers who had recently called to tell her all about a new relationship and how she had found "the one." After politely listening to her friend speak almost exclusively in superlatives (based on four weeks of dating), she said, "Congratulations. I think you have just met your future ex-husband." I was so enthralled by the phrase that I began to work on a project that would evolve into this book.